It's Not About Chivalry and Resisting Temptation: Here's What Good Men Really Do

The epitome of all that is masculine goodness: my husband.

Even the most cursory perusal of Facebook yields the conclusion that we have a serious problem of masculinity. Men are encouraged by popular culture, by other men, and by the women who let them get away with shitty behavior to act like overgrown manchildren. For some men, this cultural indoctrination turns abusive. Because there are so many men who just aren't up to being decent relationship partners, many women have learned to accept less than they deserve. The result is an entire cottage industry of blog posts telling women how to tell if a guy is a good one and encouraging them to only pick men who do relationships right.

We're Giving Lip Service to Mental Health Issues Again. And We'll Presumably Continue to Not Actually Do Anything.

Another person taught by society that human life is not valuable has gone on a killing spree. Now everyone will begin wringing their hands about how we need better mental health care for about five minutes, but no one will actually do anything. We'll go back to normal until the next shooting, and it will keep happening over and over and over again and we will all pretend to be shocked. Better mental health care -- not involuntary commitment, not violation of patient privacy rights, and certainly not a national mental health registry -- is the solution, and I am so fucking tired of not hearing anyone talk about what better mental health care means.